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Dec 26, 2023Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Wise words. Some people deserve none of your emotional energy. Especially strangers on the internet.

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Dec 26, 2023Liked by Adam B. Coleman

You can please some of the people some of the time... and tossers never.

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Dec 29, 2023Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Adam, I want to delve deeper into the issue you've brought up, one that is deeply ingrained in our culture. Our society often inadvertently steers people away from understanding and valuing relationships by placing too much emphasis on personal self-realization and self-discovery. This focus can sometimes border on narcissistic behavior. We've all heard phrases like "personal truth," but we rarely stop to consider that truth is something that should be negotiated within the context of our relationships with others. (Remember the story of the six blind men and the elephant.)

Imagine being in a relationship, whether it's with a coworker, friend, or spouse, where you're constantly expected to submit to someone else's personal "truth." It's not a recipe for healthy connections. Our identities are intimately tied to our relationships with others, yet we encourage individuals to turn inward instead of engaging with the world around them, where personal growth, curiosity, and understanding can flourish.

In our culture, we often promote the idea that the most significant way to contribute to the world is by demanding change while simultaneously accepting our own immaturity and underdevelopment. It's a curious paradox: we feel entitled to judge the world, but we resist judgment ourselves. In contrast, in healthy relationships, the focus isn't solely on ourselves; the relationship itself holds immense value. To thrive in relationships, we must learn to serve, negotiate truth, and submit our identities to something greater than ourselves. This is where we find a true sense of belonging and purpose.

Sadly, we've inadvertently taught younger generations to pursue goals that prioritize individualism over cooperation, maturity, and self-sacrifice. As someone who is 46 years old, I can't help but hold my own generation accountable for not stepping up and taking responsibility for guiding young people in a world that increasingly promotes selfishness.

It pains me to witness our society fostering division and encouraging people to seek meaning in material possessions rather than in the people around us. This path only leads to collective misery.

Marriage, when approached with the right mindset, is undeniably one of life's greatest gifts. I've experienced it both incorrectly and correctly. The beauty of a long-term, supportive partnership, where both individuals uplift each other, is unparalleled. It surpasses the fleeting intensity of young love.

P.S. I am passionate about this topic because I believe it holds paramount importance. That's why, at my age, I've chosen to return to school with the aspiration of becoming a teacher. My mission is to educate, even if it's just a few individuals, about the profound significance of relationships and the importance of considering different perspectives.

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I think that meme is just outrageous. It's clear how together Brosnan is with his happy marriage and his wife is beautiful despite the gripes from the envious. Why tear down love? It's the stuff of life

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Amen. Happiness is tricky. It is the miserable who seek outside help and material gains to compensate.

Contentedness is a threat to people who need you anxious and angry. You are much easier to control that way. It is the demoralized who vote in big government. The nuclear family is under attack.

Congratulations on your choice. I wish you the best.

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Dec 26, 2023Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Pretty bonkers how people react to such a personal decision!

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True enough, Adam. Commercial media in what I call the Great Age of addiction peddle only four products as nauseum: fear and envy and more fear and more envy.

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