This weekend, I met my father for the first time in Dallas, Texas, and it truly marked a new chapter of unification with someone I should have known from the beginning.
My mind is blown. I couldn’t be more pleased that you found the missing piece of the jigsaw. You could dwell on what you missed growing up, but isn’t it glorious that you have a whole new family to spend the future with? I have a warm, fuzzy feeling about this ❤️
The next important question: is your son planning to meet his paternal grandfather soon?
I have an interest in actual medical ethics (not what is taught as bioethics in higher education, which is often, "Here's a far-left policy affecting human bodies that politicians want to enact; please find some way to justify it so we can say it's ethically approved"), and have long opposed gamete donation and surrogacy, including for straight couples. The overall reasons for my opposition are complex, but one is the fact that gamete-donor children will grow up unlikely to ever know one of their biological parents. I once saw a documentary about a young woman raised by "two moms" who never felt very connected to either one. When she finally met her sperm-donor father as an adult, she realized that this was because, in terms of personality and interests, she was most like her father, not her biological mother or adoptive mother.
As a senior adult, my mother met her paternal first cousins (who all lived in Europe) for the first time. After meeting them she said, "Knowing my father's extended family helps explain why we (people in her USA family) are the way we are." My mother was not usually one to make profound statements, but in this case, I think she nailed it.
I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!! I’ve been following you for several years now, so I was aware of your fatherless upbringing. So to find your biological dad and extended family and see that he’s a good guy, man, you have a lot to be thankful for and to process.
DNA: One of my nieces, “A”, in her 40’s discovered via DNA that her beloved dad “Z” was not her dad; but thankfully, she did find her biological dad and reached out and they have definitely formed a relationship.
Meanwhile, her sister “B”, who never knew who her father was, found out that actually “Z” was HER father! Omg. Messy, but somehow it’s working itself out. (Their mom, my sister, was very loose in those days, but she is no longer like that.😉)
Lastly, through DNA, I found out that I had a half-brother out there that my father hadn’t realized he had after a brief relationship with the mother. The mother never told my dad. My siblings and I met him a couple years ago. He’s a little older than me, so about 62.
I pray that things go exceedingly well with you and your newfound family! Praise God! 🙏🏾❤️
My mind is blown. I couldn’t be more pleased that you found the missing piece of the jigsaw. You could dwell on what you missed growing up, but isn’t it glorious that you have a whole new family to spend the future with? I have a warm, fuzzy feeling about this ❤️
It really is glorious.
Awesome!
Good!
Amazing! But we're all interested in more of the story - how did you locate him, and did he know you existed? Feeling nosy lol
I'm glad you've found him.
The next important question: is your son planning to meet his paternal grandfather soon?
I have an interest in actual medical ethics (not what is taught as bioethics in higher education, which is often, "Here's a far-left policy affecting human bodies that politicians want to enact; please find some way to justify it so we can say it's ethically approved"), and have long opposed gamete donation and surrogacy, including for straight couples. The overall reasons for my opposition are complex, but one is the fact that gamete-donor children will grow up unlikely to ever know one of their biological parents. I once saw a documentary about a young woman raised by "two moms" who never felt very connected to either one. When she finally met her sperm-donor father as an adult, she realized that this was because, in terms of personality and interests, she was most like her father, not her biological mother or adoptive mother.
As a senior adult, my mother met her paternal first cousins (who all lived in Europe) for the first time. After meeting them she said, "Knowing my father's extended family helps explain why we (people in her USA family) are the way we are." My mother was not usually one to make profound statements, but in this case, I think she nailed it.
Blessings on all of you as you move forward in this journey!
It makes me so happy to learn this. God is good.
I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!! I’ve been following you for several years now, so I was aware of your fatherless upbringing. So to find your biological dad and extended family and see that he’s a good guy, man, you have a lot to be thankful for and to process.
DNA: One of my nieces, “A”, in her 40’s discovered via DNA that her beloved dad “Z” was not her dad; but thankfully, she did find her biological dad and reached out and they have definitely formed a relationship.
Meanwhile, her sister “B”, who never knew who her father was, found out that actually “Z” was HER father! Omg. Messy, but somehow it’s working itself out. (Their mom, my sister, was very loose in those days, but she is no longer like that.😉)
Lastly, through DNA, I found out that I had a half-brother out there that my father hadn’t realized he had after a brief relationship with the mother. The mother never told my dad. My siblings and I met him a couple years ago. He’s a little older than me, so about 62.
I pray that things go exceedingly well with you and your newfound family! Praise God! 🙏🏾❤️