I'm sorry, Adam, but I have to disagree with you at least partway on this one: some of us have family members (in my case, my only sibling who most likely has a personality disorder) who have been emotionally and verbally abusive to us for DECADES. I went "very low contact" nearly two years ago, because I finally learned, after our parents' deaths, that what a healthcare provider told me long ago is unfortunately true: "She probably won't change." I am willing to forgive people who change or at least admit that interpersonal problems "take two to tango," but she is highly unlikely to do either. Even as a child she had to be "superior" to me; once she entered adolescence she wanted very little to do with me at all, and never really looked back because I'm not "good enough" to be in her family. Although I definitely think we owe our parents and children respect, support, and forgiveness, when it comes to siblings, not as much. . .
"There are valid times to go no-contact with someone in your life"
Only you can determine these things. However, sometimes with time and maturity, there could be a way to start over the relationship or at least approach association in a new way.
What a beautiful, beautiful message. We cannot heal the world until we heal ourselves. It heals one person at a time.
Wisdom.
With an article like this that is why what you say resonates so much with me ...
I'm sorry, Adam, but I have to disagree with you at least partway on this one: some of us have family members (in my case, my only sibling who most likely has a personality disorder) who have been emotionally and verbally abusive to us for DECADES. I went "very low contact" nearly two years ago, because I finally learned, after our parents' deaths, that what a healthcare provider told me long ago is unfortunately true: "She probably won't change." I am willing to forgive people who change or at least admit that interpersonal problems "take two to tango," but she is highly unlikely to do either. Even as a child she had to be "superior" to me; once she entered adolescence she wanted very little to do with me at all, and never really looked back because I'm not "good enough" to be in her family. Although I definitely think we owe our parents and children respect, support, and forgiveness, when it comes to siblings, not as much. . .
I will emphasize this sentence in the article:
"There are valid times to go no-contact with someone in your life"
Only you can determine these things. However, sometimes with time and maturity, there could be a way to start over the relationship or at least approach association in a new way.