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Betsy's avatar

I love reading about the nuts and bolts of your happy relationship. Know you both have to work hard at it (relationships are hard!). I recommend this blog to others and I especially hope the young ones subscribe because you are such a how-to-do-it model for them personally as well as professionally.

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Adam B. Coleman's avatar

Thank you and I appreciate you sharing it with others.

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Ted's avatar

Well, Mr. Coleman, I'm hoping you'll forgive my framing it this way, but I've recently been pondering the way we men sometimes fail to pay attention to certain things.

So you happened to find a smart and wise woman who coincidentally was willing to put up with you. I'm suggesting that the fact that she's also a world-class beauty, might very well be a message of sorts from God. Recent events in my own life have directed my musings in this direction.

It seems like a message of "you're a dude and that means I gotta whack you upside the head sometimes to get your attention. Just to be sure I now HAVE your attention, I'm gonna deliver my message by means of someone capable of HOLDING your attention."

Anyway, that's my latest theory about why I seem to go along so heedlessly for periods of time. If that shoe fits you also, by all means lace it up.

These things you've persevered in because of that lovely lady's support, advice and encouragement, appear to be meaningful aspects of your destiny. If you're already being mindful about feeling gratitude for God's mercy and blessings, maybe you really didn't need a whack upside the head. If that's the case, you're already doing what you're supposed to be doing and her sharing her life with you is a different kind of blessing.

When it comes down to getting whacked upside the head, there definitely appears to a "different strokes for different folks" element involved.

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Ann Taylor Schwing's avatar

It's not just the right spouse, although that is the critical element. The right spouse is a boost instead of a drain on the relationship, content to share in and support what the other spouse cares about but having interests and enthusiasm for subjects and concerns that may or may not overlap. The spouses together should be more than the sum of their parts as the interests of one can enrich the other in the moment and over time.

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Bill Beshlian's avatar

I’ve got an editor too. 23 years in October.

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Danimal28's avatar

Out-punted your coverage like the rest of us, buddy. My wife of 30 years is existential to our raising of three ethical and self-sustaining GenXers. It is the greatest investment we have ever made. We won't retire early, but I am lucky in that my job isn't work; I love it.

Cheers to you two!

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Adam B. Coleman's avatar

God bless

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ken terry's avatar

Find a compatible partner and then make a commitment. Allow nothing to sway your commitment to each other (and to God if you have that relationship) and you will both flourish. Thanks for another encouraging post Coleman.

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