I do believe there're benefits to meeting someone in your circle, but I don't discount the pros of using the internet to look for a committed partner. The key word here is "committed," rather than "hooking up." I consider it a variation on an arranged marriage, but the two people involved are doing their own arranging. But I agree that for most of us, finding someone known in your social circle is the best way to date. I also think it's overblown how many men and women bash the other sex as a group. The Andrew Tates of the world, I believe, are the minority.
Having options is definitely good but I think many have been sold on that the default is online dating and while there are stories of success, you have to go through a lot to luck out discovering that person.
We don't realize how abnormal it is in human history to try to find future committed partners through a network of complete strangers.
And while I agree, committed is key...the problem is that when you go on date one, you don't know if they really mean it. Does this guy really want to get married or is he a liar who says it to every woman?
No one in your social circle knows this guy to figure out if he's a player or serious about his word. It's a massive guessing game and it can make anyone paranoid.
I’m coming from my own experience and I really didn’t like the dating game. Probably much to do with coming of age in the 70’s. I met my husband when we were both in the USN, me a single mother and him with a prior failed marriage, and I had a very narrow and rigid checklist for potential mates. We decided to marry 2 weeks after we met and married 3 months later. That was 35 years ago! I also know a professional male, half American, German engineer. He found his highly educated, American wife through a match service. They are happily married with 2 children.
Match services sound interesting to me. But I think it depends on who is doing it because the client might think they're shopping for a partner rather than understanding they are human beings. I've heard some stories...
Great post! "Go outside" yes! Leave the house. It's good to remind people. I think a lot of these "influencers" are looking for clicks so they say these inflammatory things about the opposite sex. Obviously Andrew Tate is the most extreme example of this. The energy you put out is the energy you get back. You and Michele look very happy. Rock on Adam!
I do believe there're benefits to meeting someone in your circle, but I don't discount the pros of using the internet to look for a committed partner. The key word here is "committed," rather than "hooking up." I consider it a variation on an arranged marriage, but the two people involved are doing their own arranging. But I agree that for most of us, finding someone known in your social circle is the best way to date. I also think it's overblown how many men and women bash the other sex as a group. The Andrew Tates of the world, I believe, are the minority.
Having options is definitely good but I think many have been sold on that the default is online dating and while there are stories of success, you have to go through a lot to luck out discovering that person.
We don't realize how abnormal it is in human history to try to find future committed partners through a network of complete strangers.
And while I agree, committed is key...the problem is that when you go on date one, you don't know if they really mean it. Does this guy really want to get married or is he a liar who says it to every woman?
No one in your social circle knows this guy to figure out if he's a player or serious about his word. It's a massive guessing game and it can make anyone paranoid.
I’m coming from my own experience and I really didn’t like the dating game. Probably much to do with coming of age in the 70’s. I met my husband when we were both in the USN, me a single mother and him with a prior failed marriage, and I had a very narrow and rigid checklist for potential mates. We decided to marry 2 weeks after we met and married 3 months later. That was 35 years ago! I also know a professional male, half American, German engineer. He found his highly educated, American wife through a match service. They are happily married with 2 children.
Match services sound interesting to me. But I think it depends on who is doing it because the client might think they're shopping for a partner rather than understanding they are human beings. I've heard some stories...
Great post! "Go outside" yes! Leave the house. It's good to remind people. I think a lot of these "influencers" are looking for clicks so they say these inflammatory things about the opposite sex. Obviously Andrew Tate is the most extreme example of this. The energy you put out is the energy you get back. You and Michele look very happy. Rock on Adam!
Thank you! Completely agree.