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Apr 22Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Absolutely! Date nights are a wholesome excuse to spend more time together. Poor Pearl is self-snitching the fact she has no experience in love

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Truth. I feel bad that she doesn't know what that actually feels like.

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Apr 22Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Good for you. Davis is making a gross generalization and a cynical one at that.

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VERY cynical

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Apr 23Liked by Adam B. Coleman

People who make wholesale generalizations about any group can readily be ignored. Kudos to you and your wife. Our favorite date is the $2 hot dog meals at Costco - we can afford much more, but they turned from a quick necessity between evenings with kids programs to a lovely ritual to remind us that it's not what you do, but with who you choose to it.

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Apr 22Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Hey Adam, a wonderful and uplifting personal story. Thanks for sharing with us. You are absolutely right about marriage and more people could use this lesson. You can get married b/c you're "in love," but you'll stay married b/c you become friends and develop a partnership. Today you wrote what I would call age old wisdom that seems to have been forgotten by most of the country if not the world. And the best part was that you were intentional about it. People do end up in your shoes but it's rarely due to intentional choices, so kudos to you for seeing that far down the road and then acting intentionally according to where you wanted to be. If you select the right person for the right reasons...and it's rarely if ever b/c "she's hot," or "she's beautiful," or "he's funny," or "the sex is good" or "he's handsome," or "he has a nice body"...and you are or become friends then you become what should be the goal of marriage, and that is to pick a partner who will accompany you on your life's journey together, as a team.

So, well done in your methodology and choice in a partner, and also choosing a great topic to write about. If your spouse is your best friends and partner for life's journey it will help to significantly mitigate some of the other problems in society that you've written about, like the plague of fatherless children. Thanks again.

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Thank you for your reply. Yes, I was very intentional about why I wanted to get married to her. We just enjoy each other a lot.

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I have zero tolerance for such women. Her theory seems nothing more than derivative that sex is always rape. This mindset has proved very dangerous for young women. Some see men as continuous predators and they strike back with their own predatory behavior. Men in happy marriages seem awe-struck at how lucky they are. I witnessed a hosted event where the man said that he and 'the love of his life' were happy we all came. I am sure that man and his wife have many date nights.

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Apr 22Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Pearl is the red-pill woman none of those nerds want.

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Apr 27Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Taking marriage advice from her is like hiring a personal trainer who doesn’t exercise. Clickbait. Happily married for 13 years and, while date nights don’t run the show, I always look forward to being alone with my husband, in or out of the house. ❤️

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Apr 24Liked by Adam B. Coleman

When you marry someone you truly love, you aren’t in the mindset of “you owe me x”.

If you have this mindset, you are a greedy asshole.

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Facts

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May 1Liked by Adam B. Coleman

I don’t even want to argue with Pearl, I just feel sorry for her. Plus I think she’s a nasty bitch. 😂 Anyway, love dates with my hubby (he fully planned the last one to our NBA playoffs game!). It’s really nice when we can be in non work or parent mode. And I love doing nothing with him and that’s something he’s said too. He’ll go do x hobby with x,y, z people but the only person he wants to do nothing with is ME 👸🏼 your thing about loving seeing all your wife’s emotions go across her face is ADORBS

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Apr 25Liked by Adam B. Coleman

My husband plans dates every weekend for us. We love to spend time together.

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In most aspects of life people look to people with proven success in an area for advice. If someone wants marriage advice they are much better off asking the couple that’s been married 60 years than the young woman who’s not only not married but near as I can tell has never had a healthy relationship.

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I like this post for so many different reasons!

One is, as you stress, that there’s no need for transactions with someone I love and like so much.

Another reason why I like this post is because it underscores that unless you know me, please don’t assume that you know me.

A third reason is for all of the fond memories laughing together on the sofa during a power outage, hoping that the lights don’t come on again so we could tell more stories.

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Apr 28Liked by Adam B. Coleman

This lovely short post brought me joy. My wife is my best friend and I feel grateful every day that we met and married. After > 10 years and two munchkins I still have so much fun whenever we have time to hang out.

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I'm glad to bring joy to your heart

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I can't tell if this chick is just grifting, has the most terminal case of "not like the other girls" ever witnessed or is a genuine 80 IQ moron. Very sad. I have weekly date nights with my wife or just hang out all the time.

Great article btw!

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Thank you.

She could be all of the above TBH

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Apr 23Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Very sweet, you are blessed to have found one another!

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Thank you 😊

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Apr 23Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Excellent thoughts. Thanks for this.

You and your wife(and best friend!) are truly blessed to share your lives.

Beautiful photo of you together by the Brandenburg Gate!

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Thank you 😊

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Apr 22Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Wonder what Davis brings to the table.

Anyway. Spot on, Adam.

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Thank you

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